i like to read all the posts in my head as the Voice of Applejack in my head, it tends to strip out a lot of the mean and nasty and helps me give you the benefit of the doubt when it comes to the way thing are worded. i don't like to assume someone is typing out nasty stuff and trying to be mean.
That's one of the best ways (the voice of Applejack) I've ever heard in dealing with this sort of thing.